4 Healthy Defaults for Balancing Family and Ministry – Part 3

Phil Bell RunningIn my first post in this series I talked about the importance of seeking out a vision for our own family while we journey through ministry together. So often we are quick to craft vision statements and values for our churches, yet we neglect to have a God-given vision for our own family. If you are like me, when things are way out of balance, we begin to lose joy in what we do, while our families struggle with our workload… Know the feeling?

In my last two posts I have looked at two healthy defaults for balancing family and ministry. While balancing family and ministry is like trying to hit a moving target, it does not mean we should not seek to place some healthy defaults in place. These healthy defaults, along with a clear family vision can make all the difference. It’s imperative we create healthy spiritual and relational defaults, and today I want to focus on the third default of physical health. 

I have a confession… Up until about 3 months ago, I used to run 3-4 miles at least 3 times a week, play indoor soccer once a week, and mountain bike about once a month… My diet was mostly healthy with a few treats added in… Then we moved to North Carolina!

Changing ministry, moving 4 times in 4 months, (long story) has a way of not only tiring me out, it’s also killed many of my healthy habits! In the past 3 months I ran twice, I have not kicked a soccer ball once, and my mountain bike just arrived on the moving truck last week, (the tires are flat and my compressor is broken – It feels like a representation of my exercise life right now). As for food, it seems like tiredness has encouraged me to give-in to comfort food more often than I should…

Why is this a problem? It’s not hard to know the obvious problems of health and wellness. Little exercise and poor diet will obviously catch up with me in some way, but I wonder if we often miss out on a greater reason for staying healthy?

What are the emotional, mental, and spiritual benefits to being healthy?

What is the impact on our efficiency when we have healthy defaults?

When I have healthy defaults that are part of my rhythm, I just get more done! Have you ever experienced that? If not, let me tell you, it is a brilliant feeling! Right now, I feel like I am missing out a little… How about you?

So, what is next? While this post would get more traction around the new year,  I can’t wait for a resolution to get me back to my healthy defaults. Below, are some quick bullets that I hope will allow me to reestablish some healthy defaults in my life. While I don’t want to become legalistic, I need to set some goals in place to help me to get back on track… How about you?

Add in: 

  •  Running 2x a week. Start at 2 miles. Work up to 3 miles.
  •  Join an indoor soccer league locally, (by the end of the year).
  • Mountain bike once a month
  • Drink 6-8 cups of water a day


  • Stop eating after 7pm. (I often snack in the evenings… Chips and salsa can’t be good for me every night before bed)!
  • No snacks / candy during the day.
  • 2 cups of coffee a day. (Currently, I drink 3-4 cups a day).

What about you? What do you need to add into your schedule? What needs to change? How could some healthy defaults impact your emotional, mental, and spiritual life? How would it help you to be more effective in your family and ministry? What simple steps can you take to establish some healthy defaults in your life?

Phil <><


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