As I look back, I am amazed at how much I have learned and how much I have yet to learn about ministry and leadership. Although I use the word “incredible” to describe my journey so far, it’s important to clarify that “incredible” includes those painful lessons and humbling experiences. For, without them, I would not be who I am today as a leader.
I have observed that leaders must go through a time of refining in order to become the instrument God intends them to be.
As I reflected on some of these “incredible” experiences, I felt I should share some of them briefly, as a way to encourage you and remind you, that you are not alone…
Here are some painful lessons I have had to learn:
- Know the difference between a quiet time and message preparation.
- There will always be busy seasons, but my family cannot survive living constantly in the fast lane.
- Healthy boundaries don’t make people dislike me. Boundaries are model to others and create respect for me.
- Clear vision and strong faith is key, even when I am not completely certain of an outcome.
- The longer I wait to deal with a difficult person will only go to amplify the eventual fallout.
- Stop trying to be a pleaser of people, instead bring joy to my Heavenly Father.
- Recruit great leaders, give them a clear vision, then let lead! Don’t try to micro manage them…
- If someone in ministry is dishonest, speak truth and love to them, even if it might cost you…
I am sure there are many more experiences I could share, but those are some of the highlights that stand out for me in the last ten years or so. Whether you can relate to some or all of them, please know that you are not alone. God allows great leaders to go through a time of refinement so that we can become more like He intends us to be.
What painful experiences have shaped you to become a more effective leader? What are you going through right now that God wants to use to shape you for the better?